Offering submission

There are many different Dominants involved in the Kinkdom so how do you select one which you will get along with? As with any type of relationship personality plays a huge part in how you will relate to each other. It doesn't matter if you are searching for the ideal Professional Dominatrix or looking to forge a Lifestyle arrangement. The questions and research are roughly the same. Consider the following points:

• Where does the Dominant draw Their authority from?
• Do They need to rely upon endless amounts of equipment?
• How well to They seem to know Their subject?
• Are They known on the scene? If so, what type of reputation do They have?
• Are They versed in basic safety awareness such as safewords?
• Are They active on community sites so you can see how They think and feel about things?
• Are they reasonably traceable?
• Do They value and respect the submission you are offering to Them?
• What is the health status of the Dominant?
• Are They aware of your health status?
• Is the communication open and honest between you?

Remember, safety and enjoyment are principally the responsibility of each individual. It is not acceptable for a submissive to abdicate responsibility for this and then maintain the Dominant is in charge. The submissive selects Who they offer their submission to and must accept this responsibility squarely. Submission is a gift and requires huge strength of personality to offer to Another. It is valuable and should be respected as such by the submissive, as well as the Dominant to whom they are offering it.

I always maintain that the first person to own a submissive is themselves, only then will they have something to offer to Me and have enough spine to bow before Me. Never, ever offer your submission to someone because you feel that you "should" - submit to Those who call your submission from you. In this manner you will enjoy laying your gift at Their feet far more.