Dom/me Space

Dom/me space or "top space" as it is often called tends not to have such a dramatic initial impact as sub-space. This is because the chemicals generated within the Dominant participant in a scene build more slowly. It is also generally considered a more rare experience because of the subtlety of the build up.

Symptoms of Dom/me space being achieved are difficult to discern by others, as externally the Dom/me will "merely" present as more Dominant than They were before. This can be caused by Them getting deeper into Their psychological scene space at will or because They have hit Dom/me space.

The chemicals released in the Dominant's system are not well researched, so little is known at present about the physiological effect. However, a change can and does occur in many Dominants and tops.

Phsychological effects include: loss of perception of time, total focus on the scene, obliviousness to others around (hence the need for a "spotter" when engaging in things like knife play in public), and at it's height a linking of depth to the submissive to the extent that the Dominant and submissive in fact respond to each other as though dancing together, the Dominant may also feel very languid afterwards.

A word of caution is needed, however. A Dom/me or top experiencing this for the first time will find They gain a deeper enjoyment from Their actions. This can lead to deep feelings of guilt as They have often be socially conditioned to not be "bad" or "cruel" to others. To discover that one actually enjoys making another writhe can cause the Dominant to be seriously challenged in Their self-perceptions. This can obviously result in "Dom/me Drop" which can be caused from physical response as well as psychological and emotional challenges. The Dominant will need to make these feelings "fit" inside Themselves and be able to perceive Themselves as whole and a "good person" again. Sadly this is often far more of a challenge for Dommes, as many are brought up with the ethos that "nice girls don't" in addition to other social conditioning.